Spending the day alone

How does one be alone but not lonely?

I used to be scared to be alone. Spending time with myself and only myself seemed daunting and something that I would avoid at all costs. I would go out of my way to find someone to be with even when it was easier to be alone. I hated going out to run errands or go somewhere I wanted to if no one could come with. When I did have to venture out by myself, I always felt like people were looking at me and judging.

One day as I sat in a coffee shop passing time before a meeting, I suddenly had a realization that change my whole view. I realized that other people are too preoccupied with their own lives to have the time or energy to care about one girl sitting alone reading a book. Now that might seen sad in the whole "we should all care for each other kind of thing," but for me it was relieving.

After that I started going on "dates" with myself, which was weird because it was like I was getting to know me all over again. I learned that I do my best writing when can just sit in overwhelming quietness with only my thoughts to keep me company. I learned that I like people watching and making up stories about their lives. I learned that I love photography and seeing the world through my camera lense to find beauty in the mundane. Oh and I learned that I can't stand loud chewers... like please just close your mouth!

Now I value my alone time and find myself looking forward to a few hours a day where I can sit with my thoughts and be still.

Just today, I grabbed my favorite breakfast smoothie and my current read, and went to sit in a park for a few hours to listen to the birds and rush of the water. It was the most peaceful and relaxing start to my day that I have had in a long time.

I recommend taking some time out of everyday to just sit and be alone. Driving in your car with no clear destination, reading a book, doing some yoga, anything where it is just you and what you love to do. Those are the times where you start to understand who you are and your place in this world.

Being alone doesn't have to be lonely. You truly are your own best friend.

Here are some pictures from my day alone:


  1. Yes, I agree; time alone is very calming and healing !!! Learning to appreciate the people in your life and the world !! Great words Sarah K.

    1. It so important to be alone to then appreciate coming home to people you love! Thanks for reading.